Cold to intimacy
For three years now I have been tormenting myself with the thought that the relationship in my marriage is not what it used to be. The feelings have cooled down, the desire to like each other is gone, there is no flirting. There are only worldly comforts, doing business together, solving some worldly problems, raising a child. Want to return the passion in the relationship, the desire to be loved, tenderness and affection. But I can’t solve the problem on my own. I repeatedly tried to explain this to my husband, but he does not see the problem. Because of misunderstanding, I often become cold to intimacy and thereby also aggravate the situation, but there is no desire to pretend either.
Thank you for your advice. I think I’ll stick with it. Maybe I should surprise him with something. If that doesn’t work, I’ll just have to say goodbye to him.
Loyalty is certainly a good quality and can be the basis of a relationship and marriage, but if it is mutual. Somewhere a girl wrote about her position in the family, even enduring beatings, but "faithful" and supported by faith... There was also something there about dissolving into each other and fully accepting the other. There was also something in there about dissolving into each other, about fully accepting the other... I read that and thought I had reached the penultimate stage, but that's not how I imagined the "love" stage... some kind of emptiness based on a sense of duty... no passion, no mistakes... "acceptance" without any self violence... And I have noticed that many things are based on passion. If there is passion, then there is interest. But the question is, how do you keep it? I've tried a lot of things. And various games, and bought costumes, and put on handcuffs, bondage harness, but somehow it had no effect.